Thanks for the questions y'all! I have to do some work now but I'm going to try to answer some more tonight

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I really enjoyed your article on weirdness and creativity! Do you think that there are psychological downsides to being "weird," like more time spent alone, without connection to others, or do you think those downsides can also be beneficial? (I'm especially thinking about it in the context of quarantine, where I have been spending a great deal more time alone, and I've found myself really enjoying it that there's no pressure to socialize).

from /u/babymybaby

Omg! I feel the same way about quarantine haha. I do think there are downsides, though. In my book, I talk about the extreme pain of social ostracism. Most of us think of that as a middle-school, and high-school thing, but actually, there was a study done with *adult researchers who knew they were being ostracized.* Even though they were aware the ostracism was gonna be taking place, and it was being done as part of an experiment, it was still incredibly painful to them. They said things like, “I feel like I am a ghost on the floor that everyone hears, but no one can talk to." I think people make jokes about what it's like to not be invited to a wedding, or even a meeting, but the really deeply hurt feelings that can provoke are real.

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Hi Olga!

What's it been like to be promoting your book in the midst of the current pandemic?

from /u/wasionboy

It's been very strange! I'm trying to find ways to tie the book material into COVID (there are a few connections, surprisingly!) And obviously people can still buy and read the Kindle book instantly on April 7 -- and might have more time to do so. But would I have not chosen to have this come out in the middle of a pandemic, had I known? Absolutely :)

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Hi Olga,

Do you believe synergy and dynamic self-starting will disrupt the gig-economy given the utilization in the sustainable human capital values ecosystem to break down silos?

P.S. LOVED your February article about Corporate buzzwords.

from /u/stehmansmith5

I totally think we should mindshare this synergy offline

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Do you think there are TOO MANY "journalists?" Has the low barrier to entry within journalism (Anyone can start a blog) over the past 20-ish years created a toward trend in overall quality?

Do you feel that someone with your qualifications is "undermined" by some random blogger putting out clickbait, or do you think there is "never enough news?"

from /u/UnknownQTY

Wow, really interesting question. I guess my instinct is no? So many prominent journalists have emerged from "blogs," and so many websites have been called "blogs" until just recently. I would say it has perhaps made journalism more competitive, because now not only are you trying to beat the WaPo or NYT at whatever you're doing, you're also racing against or whatever. But in general, I'm of the "let a thousand flowers bloom" school of journalism, where there are generally more stories than people to write them, and everyone who can and wants to should be able to give it a go

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Were you hoping your boyfriend would come in here and ask some inane question about sourdough starter?

from /u/rseymour

blocked and reported

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I'm a punk rocker, definitely a non-conformist and I don't feel like I'm 'missing out' or am 'ostracized'. I feel as if I am just me and those who choose not to involve me do not matter to me in the grand scheme.

With that being said, a lot of my friends and peers feel that they are missing out or ostracized, or that the same advantages given to a 'normie' are not and would never be bestowed upon them.

Do you have any advice for those people? I maintain the attitude of "don't let the bastards grind you down" but some people don't feel the same.


from /u/jawnlobotomy

Yeah, kudos to you for being able to embrace your distinctiveness in that way! One thing that might work for your friends is to try to look at the situation from a third-person perspective. What advice would they give themselves if they were a therapist or a friend? Sometimes that can lead to breakthroughs simply because when we're not as close to a situation, we can see it more clearly

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You have cojones to be releasing your book in the middle of a pandemic. Didn’t you also get your career going during the Great Recession 10 years ago? What was that like, and has it informed your approach to trying to make another big career move in the middle of another crisis? Would be grateful if you could any lessons for those of us staring down the abyss.

from /u/alitasso

Ah yes, the abyss my old friend. I can't stop thinking about how these past 10 years have been bookended by apocalypses. I would say starting a journalism career during the Great Recession was the hardest thing I've ever done. I honestly still talk to my therapist about it. Basically, people were looking for ways to tell you that they can't hire you because they can't afford it, but they would instead make it about *you*. "You're not what we're looking for," etc, "you don't have the right experience." It really did a number on my self-esteem! So I guess one lesson learned is just that not everything is about you ... sometimes you're great and the news org is just a flaming money fire with a "this is fine dog" sitting in the middle. So try to keep that in mind I guess. But not gonna sugarcoat it, it sucks. Good luck!

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How do you think the current pandemic will impact newspaper owners' views on monetization (and therefore... staying open)? What about readers' views?

from /u/InquisitorEngel

This is a tough one! News traffic is through the roof, but obviously recessions hit journalism really hard. Newspapers are already really struggling. Honestly, I'm *hopeful* that this will prompt people to see the value in journalism and to pay money for subscriptions. I'm *fearful* that this will lead news outlet owners to see a dearth of ad revenue and start laying off folks

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Do magic mushrooms make you weird? I ate a lot about 20 years ago over several months and it just made everyone else weird to me. Thoughts? I ended up a snowboarding cannabis grower in Tahoe which felt normal to me.

from /u/LouQuacious

There's some strong evidence that magic mushrooms (psilocybin) can play a role in mental-health treatments. The reason is they make you see things in a new way ... much like weirdos do :)

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How does unity in a time of crisis (during this pandemic) either hinder or bolster the practice of non-conformity?

from /u/borealism-

Pandemics lead to a surge in conformity. Because of the behavioral immune system, when we're worried about getting sick, we start to fear norm-violators and other types of outsiders. Women in their first trimester of pregnancy, when they're more vulnerable to infections, tend to be more xenophobic ( I predict a huge retrenchment toward traditional norms and values after this -- you're already seeing that with people celebrating the idea that women are "back at home" with their kids and cooking for their husbands

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What role do you think psychedelics will play in treatment of mental health disorders in the future? Will it be transformational? Thank you!

from /u/gordyboy12345

Yeah, I think this is our best hope for pervasive depression and addiction. I'm not seeing anything interesting come out of the conventional pharmaceutical space

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When are the moments that make you want to give in and conform because it's easier than standing outside of the norm? [Edited for spelling and to remove a random word.]

from /u/Iloveyoubromontana

Anytime I'm at some function and people ask me if I'm married and have kids yet (nope and nope)

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Hi Olga, what's the most surprising thing you've learned about yourself while writing the book?

I love your work in The Atlantic, by the way!

from /u/br61

Thank you so much for reading! The most surprising is this factoid: So we know that lonely people have more heart disease and high blood pressure, right? But why? It's actually because when you're lonely, your body thinks you're being attacked by bacteria:

As I write, "the immune system is gearing up to fight off bacteria that aren’t really there, pumping you full of inflammatory chemicals in the process. The inflammation shreds the blood-vessel walls, leading to plaque buildup, which is why lonely people have more heart attacks."

Our bodies: They're crazy just like us.

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Why is it easier for people to conform even if what they're conforming to may be negative?

from /u/Trust_No_1_

This is in the book, but humans are just rule-followers! We love to conform, we like to fit in. It feels good and tickles our dopamine receptors. We like to be liked, and to be thought of as doing the "right thing." And for the most part this is a good thing! The problem is when the crowd starts doing something really effed up, and you're still following it.

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I read your article about Buzzwords a while back. Are there new quarantine buzzwords that you hate?

from /u/dangrahn


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Is being weird in the sense of your book more about holding contrarian views or being ostracized from the mainstream social groups? Are the two related?

Did you study groups formed by weird people? In some ways, a group of people that don't like to be in the mainstream seems unstable and susceptible to leakage or offshoots, but I'm sure they exist. Would these groups nullify the benefits of being weird that you mention in your article?

Also, what is your boyfriend's favorite sport?

from /u/aphlipp

Great questions! Gonna try to tackle them best I can:

1) I think both can happen, but usually ostracism occurs because you're different in some way. It's rare to be ostracized just for a random reason. It can be subtle though!

2) Most of the people I followed were not part of a group. I write that getting social support is really important if you're gonna be weird, but these support groups tended to be more ad-hoc, like the person's existing family or friends. In fact, the folks I followed had trouble finding groups they naturally fit in with because they were so unusual. If they did find a group of TOTALLY like-minded others, I suspect they would rejoice in their newfound community for a while, and then perhaps weirdos *within* that community would start to emerge after a while :)

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Big fan of your work in The Atlantic, and looking forward to the book (as a fellow weirdo).

My questions are both writerly:

  1. Did you begin at The Atlantic as a freelancer? How did you break in?
  2. Other than this Ask me anything, what other creative ways have you come up with to promote your book in a time when a tour is out? I’ve got a friend whose books came out last week, and this is a challenging time to promote!

Keep up the wonderful work you do!

from /u/lisanik

Thank you! 1) I started as the Global editor -- editing pieces for the international section. I moved over to the health section after about a year. I think they hired me because I worked for the Washington Post before that. 2) It is hellllllish. I've been doing a lot of podcasts, newsletters, Instagram Lives, and other virtual events. And begging everyone to tweet it. Lolsob

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Seems like the folks who are normally conformists are really enjoying the opportunity covid has given them to shout the rules at the rest of us. It's a really tough time for those who lack a home address or live on the road, with transportation options disappearing. Any thoughts on the folks calling for fines and jail time for those who break the new rules?

from /u/ksgif2

I really don't support fines or jail time for breaking COVID rules. Sorry your housing situation is in flux -- I can't imagine dealing with that while dealing with the pandemic too. I agree that this seems to be a primetime for rule-followers, and while perhaps medically necessary, it can be ... grating.

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Hi Olga,

My partner has dealt with endometriosis for years, something that causes her pain, discomfort, and some sexual disfunction. It has also caused an enormous toll on her mental health. Do you see any changing trends in the research of women's health? It seems overall we focus on a lot of men's health in America (little blue pill comes to mind). While women's health is sometimes, although not always, a secondary concern.

-Thank you

from /u/secretmadscientist

That's totally true about men's vs. women's health. (And I'm so sorry for what your partner is going through!) Unfortunately scientific research in general has really been given the short shrift by recent political trends, as we're now seeing with the COVID pandemic. I'm hopeful that as we get more female political leaders we'll hopefully rethink our priorities and realize how many women suffer from conditions that are long overdue for serious scientific investments.

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I struggle with this so much. With so many hours I spend working in an office every week without finding a way to be true to myself, I feel like I’m stuck on this societal treadmill that just wears me down. It’s so frustrating to constantly feel I’m not doing the right things without knowing what it IS I ‘should’ be doing to materialise my self-expression. I’ve had a lot of professional help but it hasn’t shed much light on it so far.

Anyway let’s not make this all about me! It sounds like an interesting book. I just preordered but I do not have a Kindle. Is there any alternative? Thanks! :)

from /u/HerrVonStrahlen

Gah, sorry you're dealing with that. I totally get what that's like, and I hope you find some answers. Kindle is gonna be your fastest way, but Amazon will still deliver a hardcopy, it just might be delayed, or you can pre-order from your favorite local indie

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I can understand being weird in your personal life (around friends, with hobbies, etc,) but is there any value in being weird in your professional life? I feel like business is all about conformity - esp if you’re just a peg and not trying to lead your own company.

from /u/butt_hut

Totally, I get what you're saying. I think for the most part that's true -- a firm is all about "the mission" and everyone kind of being pointed toward that. However, research shows it's still helpful to have dissenting and contrarian types in conformist settings like businesses. It leads to better decision-making and better ideas.

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What is the very best cheese?

from /u/Chtorrr

Hard to say! Pepper jack perhaps?

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Hey I'm a life long weirdo. You can ask any parent, friend, teacher, coach or boss I've ever had. Why do I get a lot of friends when other weird people don't? Is there a right way to be weird? Is there a wrong way?

from /u/saltybruise

You probably have either 1) found your weird tribe or 2) subtly altered your personality to be less neurotic and more open! That's awesome. You can keep being weird and still have friends, that's a great way to be :)

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You had a semi-viral tweet recently about your boyfriend's sourdough bread hobby. Did you think that was especially funny when you wrote it, or do you think it was totally random that it took off?

from /u/yee_of_little_faith

Ha. I thought it was funny. But I also think everything I do is funny, but things rarely take off.

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Hi Olga! How do you think Trump has benefited from being a "WEIRD" outsider to politics?

Oh, and why do you hate sourdough starters?

from /u/dangrahn

Lol. I don't hate the starter, I just am perhaps not as into it as my partner is :)

Trump has totally benefitted from being a weirdo! If you think about it, he has brought a lot of the innovation that we typically see from weirdos to the political space: He doesn't do politically correct stuff, he's upended a lot of the norms around interacting with the public (like with his tweets), he's changed a lot of the pomp and circumstance surrounding the presidency. And people have really responded to it, thinking he's "one of them." Not saying that's a good thing! But yeah, he really sort of exemplifies the rule-breaking that we often see with weirdos.

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Did having the first name "Olga" give you a headstart on being weird?

Seriously, my name is a strange spelling of a common name and my parents did it because I was a "surprise" baby. Surprise to my dad, but not to my mom ;)

from /u/standswithpencil

Ha. I hated my name my whole life because I was the only "Olga" in Texas. But now I kind of like it. :)

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1) Are conformists running on auto-pilot to a much greater extent than non-conformists?

2) Are non-conformists generally less emotional than conformists?

3) For a non-conformist still in public school (or a private school modeled after one) who desperately wants out - what are his alternatives? If he is forced to remain as-is, what are the negative consequences?

from /u/emazur
  1. I think so. Most of the people I met were very deliberate about their choices and lifestyles, they gave a lot of thought to everything they did, and indeed several of them were psychologists. They seemed to always be thinking about what they should do next, because they didn't really have a rulebook.
  2. I dunno! For whatever reason, the people I met seemed to be on a pretty even keel. I don't know if this is because they had just lived through so much that it was hard to get a rise out of them, or if the kind of person that signs up to be in a book is naturally emotionally regulated already.
  3. Augh, not sure at all. I'm sorry I can't be more help. Not an expert on education policy at all.
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You know what's really crazy is /r/catsinsinks

Love that place. Lot of fun. Cool guy runs it.

Anyway what's your fav show right now?

from /u/Dr_HL


Wow did a cat in a sink write this post?

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How do you differentiate between someone being "weird" and someone having genuine, pathological / psychological problems? I find the biggest problem is that society just lumps both categories together. Also what is your methodology for finding someone weird since someone can fake that. (A lot of people pretend to be weird because it is cool).

from /u/lennon818

I answered this previously but I looked for people who were different from everyone else around them. Sometimes that means mentally ill, but all my interviewees were mentally healthy. So many people struggle with mental illness that it's honestly not that weird. I wouldn't want to stigmatize mental illness in that way.

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I think the message that being weird can actually make your life better is a really, really hard message for a child/teen struggling to fit in to accept. What is the must succinct way you’d propose this message to them to change their opinion?

from /u/butt_hut

I feel like the child/teen years are the toughest to be different. Honestly, so many people are like, "I wish I could revisit high school!" but that sounds like a nightmare to me. I think the best message, which has been said so much more eloquently by others, is that it gets better. Do the best you can to hang in there, focus on your hobbies and interests, and delight in knowing that the bullies will be working at Home Depot when you're working at Microsoft.

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I love your articles, and particularly your insight into toddler milk! Any advice for a doctor who would like to do more writing? Also, is anyone else at the Atlantic particularly weird (in a good way)?

from /u/Girl_on_a_bicycle

Pitch some articles to websites and papers! We (and others) accept freelance submissions

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Hi Olga. I was wondering your thoughts on the PRC's Sesame Credit System and how it enforces compliance through a credit system to remove non-conformist behaviors from Chinese society?

from /u/DetectorReddit

Not super familiar with this but that seems like something a "tight" society -- one with lots of rules and norms -- would do, unfortunately

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Hey Olga:)

Any favorite Russian/Eastern European stores around DC? I'm really missing that чёрный хлеб nowadays...

from /u/dillbizzle


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During your childhood in West Texas, did you befriend any other Russian or Central European immigrants, or was the community entirely American-born Americans?

from /u/jaysanw

No, there weren't any

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Given the virus, what advice would you give to a newly pregnant woman right now (in their first trimester)?

from /u/EdTech31

The virus doesn't appear to pose much of a risk to babies or to younger (under 40) women, so I think you're in a better spot than many. I would just wash your hands, practice social distancing, all that good stuff. That said, I'm not a doctor so be in touch with yours if you have any special concerns.

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Hi Olga! I used to want to be a journalist, but it seemed like such a difficult job I went into something else instead. I don't regret it and I'm quite happy with my decision, and I still love to read all the news I possibly can every day.

However, what remains painful for me is to see so much criticism of the media. Having gone through training to be a journalist at some point, I feel like there's so much great work out there being done by journalists that is being disregarded as "the media trying to create controversy" when what I see is journalists asking the hard questions that require serious persistence, research, and a belief that the public needs to know about these issues.

That's not to say that this type of "news" doesn't exist — there is a lot of stuff out there that is click-baity/poorly researched/not fact-checked. But to criticize the media with such a broad brushstroke, especially when many journalists are putting their lives/careers on the line to get important information to the public, is something that is difficult for me to see.

So my question is: having done a lot of research on nonconformity and being a journalist yourself and knowing a great many other journalists, what are your thoughts on this type of "they just want controversy/views" criticism of the media?

Edit: Also, I just want to add that I've read a lot of your work in the Atlantic and am a huge fan!! Excited to see you here doing an Ask me anything on Reddit!

from /u/runninginorbit

Thank you so much for reading! This is one of the oldest criticisms in the book. What I tell those folks is, look, the news is mostly about problems. If you don't like problems, don't read the news. Occasionally we break out into servicey or feel-good coverage, but there's a lot going on in the world we feel we need to keep you informed about.

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Hey Olga, I'm a big fan of theories like this one because I'm also a first-generation American who grew up being a giant outlier in the South. Most of who I am today and my successes can all be attributed to the outsider perspective I've enjoyed. Because the source of my identity and success is also the source of my loneliness and misery, I've spent a lot of time thinking about it and it strikes me that what you want, both as an individual and as a society, is actually a balance between nonconformity and conformity.

Have you explored the fulcrum of this balance? This isn't really a targeted question and might be a lot of the content of the book but I'd love to get at whatever brain dump you have time to spare :)

from /u/ducks_mclucks

OMG yes. I try to walk that line but it is tough ... I do think a balance between the two is the best way for us weirdos to proceed though. Either that or go to Burning Man, lol

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What's your favorite animal and why?

from /u/Faykenews

Sea turtles. I like how they go with the flow :)

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Love your work Olga! What are some of your favorite authors or books? Have you been reading more now that we’re in quarantine?

from /u/ParticularAmbition

I love memoirs!!! Meghan Daum, Ariel Levy, Gary Shteyngart, Julie Klausner's memoir was really good, PRIESTDADDY x100

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I was born a misanthropist. I fought it for 50 years; finally gave up. So my parting of the ways with humanity was mutual and being ostracized came naturally and comfortably -- I, in turn, ostracize society because I have found most people "not worthy". Nevertheless, I have a great deal of empathy for all animals, humans included. So while I fight for social, economic, and racial justice, I don't want to be around people and I'm not lonely. My question for you is, what percentage of weird people are "weird" simply because they reject, to varying degrees, the artificial roles and norms imposed by our culture? I would suspect, most. Looking forward to your book.

from /u/MicrocultivationRegs

Yes, this is a huge factor! Most of the people I interviewed were not like this (ie they don't avoid people), but I think to varying degrees they rejected whatever the culture expected of them, which is a form of what you're doing.

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How do you define who’s weird and who’s normal (or whatever the synonym of weird is)? How much agency does an individual have in the making of this distinction?

from /u/kingsalm0n

People who are different from everyone around them -- so the only x in a y. The only liberal in a conservative environment, the only female in a male-dominated profession, the only ex-Amish girl in her area, etc. Yes, they could probably go do or live somewhere else, but that's not what they want to be doing.

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Hi Olga, interested to hear your thoughts on nonconformists who end up following a prescriptive path of nonconformity and in essence become conformists themselves, just on a different side of the equation. Do you think there is still a positive life increase or do you think that they tend to suffer from the same pitfalls as your run of the mill conformist?

from /u/Misplacedmypenis

This is totally a thing! I think this is how a lot of cults get started, actually. "Oh, we're not like other people, we're doing our own thing." And suddenly the new thing is super circumscribed. And yeah, unfortunately I think they fall pray to the same things conformists do.

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Hi Olga, interested to hear your thoughts on nonconformists who end up following a prescriptive path of nonconformity and in essence become conformists themselves, just on a different side of the equation. Do you think there is still a positive life increase or do you think that they tend to suffer from the same pitfalls as your run of the mill conformist?

from /u/Misplacedmypenis

Answered this elsewhere but good q!

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Hello Olga,

I am unfamiliar with your work but have a general question about weirdness. My question is regarding whistleblowers. As a whistleblower myself and a weirdo at times I find it hard to deal with the pushback even when I know I am right. Have you heard these type of experiences before? What would be a good strategy to both get the issue taken seriously while not rocking the boat so much one is thrown overboard? Thanks!

from /u/nylonstring

LOVE this question. I talk about whistleblowers, aka "principled deviants," in my book. One strategy that might work well for you is to go along to get along for a while -- just conform on small stuff -- and save your big, norm-busting asks for things that really matter. Show that you can be a "team player" (I know -- gag) so that you'll be better accepted when you have an unorthodox idea. This is a tactic called "idosyncrasy credits."

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Hi Olga! I love following you on twitter - thanks for brightening up my time with great and also insightful commentary! What is your best advice for finding mentors; especially in health and science communications & have you ever received any advice that was odd (weird? if we are keeping in the theme of this post) at the time but made sense later on?


PS Were you able to incorporate anything from Austin, aka their unofficial motto of "keep austin weird" in this book?

from /u/theresalalala

Great question, thank you for reading! I don't have a ton of mentors, but I usually go with people who don't mind having a lot of random interaction with me. My crises tend to be kind of unpredictable, so just getting coffee every quarter or whatever is not really a mentor relationship that would be super fruitful for me. But everyone's different. One mentor told me not to listen to what "the market" wants, but to what I want, which seemed impossible in 2009, but seems more and more true every day. And yes! I talk about the origin of that motto in the book :)

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As a man, what is one of the most important things I can do to improve the lives and health of women?

from /u/newaccount47


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I’m a psychologist and soon-to-be behavioural scientist and always wondered how one would get into writing from this point (books, that is, not articles for journals). Would you mind talking about how you made your way into the world of writing books? Thanks a lot, I appreciate you making this Ask me anything post!

from /u/Covfefetarian

Sure! The book came about after a lot of false starts after I had gotten a few years of reporting and journalism under my belt. It was a long-time goal for me, so I'm super happy and grateful to finally be able to get to do it.

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What treatments or exercises have you found to be effective for anxiety? Without the need for prescriptions and doctor visits.

from /u/enzomilano

I really liked Joyable! It's an online app that helps with social anxiety, which is one of my main manifestations.

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Do you think there are people who desire weirdness? That is to say that they are more likely to adopt a position or believe an argument which goes counter to the majority view simply because it does so. I'm thinking particularly of conspiracy theorists and that kind of thing.

from /u/MakesTypos

I would argue that conspiracy theorists actually want to be part of a group ... they want to not be weird, they want to be part of an exclusive group of "truth-seekers"

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Do you talk at all in your book about weirdos in groups, aka evangelical Christians (speaking as someone whos been on the ins/outs of that community)? It seems to me that this group (and others like it) finds a lot of its identity in being “set apart”

from /u/mymilkweedbringsallt

Yeah! I went to evangelical Christian youth group for a long time and being like, proud to be outcasts for how much we loved Jesus was a big part of it. But honestly, evangelical Christianity is such a big group in the U.S. that they really have a tenuous claim to "weirdo-hood," in my view. No one was actually razzing us for our beliefs, it was just something we said to feel cool.

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Hi Olga,

I'm transgender (and a bit of a weirdo) and I'd agree that my experience confers some unique strengths, or, at least, has taught me a lot. No regrets.

Being transgender has also absolutely, undoubtedly, tanked my career. (There are examples, but I'll get to the point). I'm 34, I have a master's, and I've never cleared more than ~$25k in income in a single year.

What would you say to those of us who, despite any wisdom gained, clearly pay a significant price for our differences?

from /u/redblack52

Man, I totally hear that and this is a real penalty. I think it's an example of how people who are non-traditional are judged in workplaces super harshly and often face obstacles to advancement. I don't have a psychological trick that will magic this away ... all I can say is that your experience is valid, and that sometimes the exact dollar amount we make a year isn't a measure of our self-worth or self-actualization. But I know that doesn't make it any easier when the rent comes due. Stay healthy.

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What do you think about how conformity and non conformity to groups in teenagers affects their mental growth?

from /u/willgiffotron

There was a study on this a few years ago that found that the "geeks" of high school end up more successful than the popular kids. Some solace for us wallflowers :)

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Hi Olga! Congrats on finishing your project. I think I'm in your book and I completely forgot about this until now. Where can i find a copy of it?

edit: duh, there's a link on amazon.

I'm going to get a copy for sure. Question though: during the time of your research, did you find that anyone's stories, experiences, or perspectives influenced you to make any immediate changes in your own behavior? How do you view your own spirituality differently since conducting your interviews? Also, do you have any more projects, personal or business, along this same topic?

-Take care!

from /u/the70sdiscoking

Ha! Oh wow, I think I know who you are too :) And yes, meeting Deana, one of the people in the book, made me a lot more grateful for the way my early life went, even though that's one of the things I've always been the most insecure about.

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I actually knew you from West Texas growing up and have enjoyed following your career with The Atlantic. We don't always see eye to eye on some things, but I can appreciate your thoroughness in research and writing. Will your book be available in paperback? Wish you the best with the book and will continue to follow.

from /u/tcbceng

Yes, hopefully! Until then, you can buy it on Kindle for instant delivery on April 7.

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Are there qualities productive, efficient weirdos have that purely self-defeating weirdos lack?

from /u/Robert_Cannelin

Yes, anticipating that people will like them. It's self-defeating to go into social experiences expecting the worst. Learned that from an expert :)

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Is it unreasonable to believe I had the virus in the very first week of January? I believe it was here in December, maybe earlier.

How does one get tested for antibodies? I live near the CDC.

from /u/Handboard

It's possible! There appears to have been community spread detected in February (, and we don't know about earlier than that because we didn't test for it.

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Does your book talk about narcissism and how the disorder drives people to not be seen or behave the same as everyone else, IOW to be special?

from /u/flugenblar

Huh! No but that's super interesting, great point. I actually think a lot of narcissists do act in typical ways ... it's just whatever will help them get ahead. Here's an article I wrote about narcissists way back:

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I'm curious if your book is referencing the research from Heinrich and Heine, here: And, are you addressing the critique of leftist morality by Haidt in his book "The Righteous Mind"? Curious, because I have been thinking about and writing various rebuttals to him for years. I consider myself WEIRD and I am proud of it. Your book looks like it is right up my alley!

from /u/Daerice

I don't talk about the WEIRD countries problem (western, etc), but that's an interesting line of research!

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Hi Olga, how do you feel about study abroad programs in Belgium?

from /u/snowblader1412

Hi Jamie :)

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The concept speaks to me :). Will there be an audiobook?

from /u/LGuappo

Yes, it's in the works

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I'm a subscriber to The Atlantic and I look forward to seeing your articles in the magazine and online because I know they'll be interesting and engaging. You are also a prolific writer, and the topics you write about are so varied.

How do you come up with ideas for what types of articles to write and how do you know (or think you know) what will make an interesting topic?

from /u/marcusesses

Great question! Thank you for reading my articles. I think honestly a lot of times it's stuff I myself have questions about. It just so happens I really think about human behavior, the healthcare system, and policy a lot!

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I love your perspective! Keep up the awesome work.

What first led you into health and science journalism? What are your thoughts on the landscape of journalism and the direction it's headed? What advice do you have for someone with medical industry experience who is interested in doing what you do? (Imagine a not-as-smart wannabe James Hamblin who thinks there should be more James Hamblins)

from /u/StickTogetherMD

I was always interested in health and science, and I had a health scare in college that sort of pushed me in this direction, if I had to pinpoint it. I'm scared for journalism because of the new recession coming on -- I'm so grateful for all our subscribers right now. I definitely think there's a role for experts and docs in writing ... I would say keep reading and keep pitching. It's a very different style of communication than medicine.

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So I'm trans, and that naturally puts me as different from everyone in my life & career. The only other trans people I know are from communities I actively seek out. I've felt deeply disgusted by myself my whole life until I finally accepted the truth last year, and it's been a journey of self-acceptance ever since, and in doing so I've learned a lot about gender & what it means to be human.

My biggest fear (and I have nightmares about it) is when I come out fully, will it ruin my career ambitions, or will it help them? I'm hoping it will help them but terrified it will destroy my dreams. I've had my dreams crushed before, so I guess I can handle it, but this time will be very different.

What kind of insights do you have about this?

from /u/specialsnowflaker

Wow. Well, congrats to you for discovering your truth! That's a big step. I totally hear you on career fears and nightmares, though I'm cis so I admit I can't speak to all the sensitivities here. I can only imagine the difficulty of trying to navigate a transition while navigating work stuff, which tends to be so tricky anyway.

I don't have insight into what industry you're in or what part of the country you live in, but would a trans support group be helpful in this regard? They might have resources for people looking to come out at work -- like, here's a script of what to say, here's what the law protects you from, etc.

Just off the cuff, would you really want to work for a place that didn't accept you for your true gender? It doesn't sound so dreamy to me to have to stay in the closet for 9 hours a day. But I get that it's nuanced and difficult. Hang in there and best of luck!

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